Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the historical principles of nonviolence where the natural state of compassion is when no violence is present in the heart.
NVC can be seen as both a spiritual practice that helps us see our common humanity, using our power in a way that honours everyone's needs, and a concrete set of skills which help us create life-serving families and communities.
NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that verbal or physical violent strategies are learned behaviours, taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same basic human needs, and that each of our actions is a strategy to meet one or more of these needs.
NVC teaches us to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. This emphasis on deep listening helps us to discover the depth of our own compassion. Through the practice of NVC, we can learn to clarify what we are observing, what emotions we are feeling, what values we want to live by, and what we want to ask of ourselves and others. We will no longer need to use the language of blame, judgment or domination. We can experience the deep pleasure of contributing to each others' well being.
NVC also creates a path for healing and reconciliation in a range of different relationships and environments including intimate and professional relationships, prisons, governments and schools.
When our communication supports compassionate giving and receiving, happiness replaces violence and grieving. ~ Marshall B Rosenburg